Distractions!!!!!! [+ A Tool to Release Uncomfortable Feelings]

What Happened to My Vision?

I have several important goals I've been working towards with diligence. Yet lately, my motivation and determination have taken a beating. Distractions - personal and from the collective, real and imagined, important and trivial - create an uncomfortable static in my mind. My vision starts to muddle, and I start to doubt myself. 

I start to question my intuitive voice. (Anyone else felt this way recently?) 

A friend reached out for inspiration as she too felt herself being slowed by distractions. What I told her is what I really needed to tell myself (because isn't "advice" sometimes like that...us talking to ourselves through others?). 

BREATHE. Look out towards the horizon, and notice a subtlety of choice.


You get to choose the focal point. What if you choose to focus mid-short range. Not too far out, and not too close in.  

Mid-short range. You can still hold a soft and unstrained view of your hoped for destination (destiny?), AND you aren't hyper-focused on those damn gritty, annoying sand pieces under your feet.

Mid-Short Range = The Zone of Perspective

Now, move towards mid-short range goals that take you towards that horizon. Internet down and interfering with your ability to video conference with a networking contact? Instead of winding yourself tighter and tighter with stress and anxiety, ask yourself what is my destination (destiny) on the horizon. If it's breaking into a particular market, for example, then what's the mid-short range goal: connecting with this person. Does it really matter if it's off your wi-fi, your cellular network or a hot-spot at the coffee shop?

Ah...breathe...unwind. Ignore the broken Internet for now. Move towards mid-short range.

Down! Down! I said leave it!

Sometimes this is easier said than done. You might find you CAN do it, but you still feel unsettled and uncomfortable. You may be battling the not so well-trained guard dog of your limbic system. You know, the part of you that over-reacts to stimuli like an untrained dog attacking the blinds when the UPS driver parks across the street; the part that obsessively focuses on a small hurt like a neurotic canine compulsively licking a hot spot until it bleeds.

We'll talk about how to deal with that in future posts (and that's actually the topic of the book I'm writing). For now, you step into your power by harnessing your ability to focus while recognizing you can act even if you are uncomfortable. Identify the real fear, acknowledge the feelings, and keep moving towards that mid-short range goal anyway.

Make progress one step at a time. You've got this...